Keeping your family on track
Here are some issues and ideas the family will find useful exploring together.
1. Communication
Uninterrupted time; open listening; express feelings, thoughts and needs clearly; clarify understandings; explore and change negative thoughts; use ‘I statements; empathic respect; write to each other
2. Problem solving
Identify preferences; set goals; generate options; test solutions; try other solutions if necessary; evaluate
3. Managing conflict
Diffuse anger; explore values; identify real issues; tolerate differing opinions; generate solutions; test/reexplore options; use appropriate humour; make-up; plan future strategies; ask for, and grant, forgiveness
4. Shared activities
Family as a ‘team’; celebrate birthdays; holidays; travel; traditions; routines and rituals; reminisce
5. Solo activities
Each person having separate interests and hobbies.
6. Closeness
Quality time; express love; discuss needs; make requests; plan activities; quiet moments; fun times; show interest and curiosity in each other; display respect.
7. Connections
Shared mealtimes; socialise with friends; time with extended family; nurture intergenerational links
8. Wellbeing
Values; spirituality; community; volunteering; nature; gardening; health; culture; exercise; nutrition; art; theatre; literature; movies; music; dance
9. Lifestyle
Chores; roles; housework; finances; careers; be bold and optimistic; pets; explore purpose/happiness in life
10. Networks
Consult a relationship specialist; religious minister.
